Is He Worth Waiting For? Well… Probably not

So you are thinking about giving him an ultimatum, leave her and be with me and thinking that will finally shake him from his hesitation.  Chances are likely that you’ll get the exact opposite of what you wanted in the first place.

A relationship is give and take and unyielding to anything or being unwilling to compromise on every issue isn’t good either.  Every single issue in your life is not a moral issue and you really need to be able to tell the difference.  In so doing you’ll find that your energy will be amplified and you’ll also find that everything you do will be supported by the universe.  If it still doesn’t work out then and you really have managed to clean all of your emotional and metaphysical laundry then and only then is the time to look at the person you are pursuing and shine a light of objectivity on them.  just because something seems like it is impossible doesn’t mean that it is and in most cases someone who tells you that you are the problem or something you did is the problem is trying to disguise a problem they are having on their own.

Take for example the classic “He loves me but he is with her” situation.  Now there is more than one possibility here and only one of them is that statement is true.  The other, especially if that relationship has turned into an affair is simple selfishness, on his part or yours.  Very few people who have an affair with one another actually end up together 80% of women think their spouse will never cheat and 50% of men have so those numbers have to correlate somewhere.  Another possibility is that he is using you for not only what you do for hi physically but also how you make him feel.  A lot of people love that new relationship feel and I am sure you can empathize even if it comes at the cost of someone else’s happiness.

Be careful when treading those murky waters in most cases it is best to find someone more available unless you hear from a source you can trust that your belief in the future of this flowering is something worth keeping.

Be Well, Max

Raw Diet, Good For Elemental Restructuring

Living Well: Raw Diet

You hear it all the time from doctors, eat right, drink right, exercise, find time to relax, and condition your day around the idea of good health. The problem is that in this world we are not all Taoist monks with all of the time in the world to worry about internal alchemy and the rigorous practices that some of those people engage in. More importantly, we just don’t know how much of it actually WORKS. I’ll be the first one to tell you that some of the stuff especially the more esoteric things are done because of religious significance that have little or nothing to do with the whole of the system. However, the principles of cultivating personal energy and providing proper fuel for rejuvenating it are sound.

A lot of rawists that’s people who eat a diet of mostly or totally raw food tell you that it is the “only way to go” but for me personally I take my cues from the monkeys. They eat mostly fruits, followed by vegetables, roots, and roughage, then legumes, then insects, and finally whatever meat they can catch. You don’t have to eat meat at every meal it should in fact be the least of your intake but take it slowly. I’ve found that 70% raw food has worked for me for a long time Also don’t feel married to the idea of your new eating regimen if you friend is having a barbecue and you want to drink or eat a hamburger goi for it, at its core you should embrace life, not herbal tea.

If you are really into the idea of switching to a mostly raw diet there are a lot of resources on the internet that are very good for a start. Please research very thoroughly and consult a physician before trying any new diet.

http://altmedicine.about.com/od/popularhealthdiets/a/Raw_Food.htm

Be Well, Max

Are We There Yet?

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ARE WE THERE YET?

It seems so innocent, that clarion call from the back seat when you were just a child. You so willingly put all of your love and trust in a driver, just a person, to get you to your destination safely. In fact, the possibility of anything going wrong probably never entered your mind. So what happened from then until now? Most people will tell you that you grew up but that is only partway true. You did grow up, probably in perceptions and judgments, yo grew up in body, you grew up up but you also lost that innocence. When you became aware that there are forces at work in the world whether through other people or something not totally controllable that do not have your best interests in mind.

That realization and the knowledge that you are not invincible probably lead you to searching for falsehood elsewhere. You may have sought to master a skill or an art form but did you ever really try to master yourself? When you look at everything from all angles are you really able to be truly honest with yourself about your position in life? Its no shame if you can’t because hardly anyone can. That’s why you need a person in your life, while not a friend or relative who is able to be truly objective and tell you what is going on. There isn’t a fault in you for it the fault lays in the human condition. We are social animals by instinct but self interested by design. All of the bad thing that you have experienced made you who you are. A lot of them may have been better not happening at all but not everything happens for a reason, sometimes life is just unfair but this and all realities can be conquered through self mastery and good advice.

Now you are driving yourself. You’re responsible for who you are and what you put in and take from this world. No one really does it well. With a friend in the passenger seat it can still be hard sometimes for someone who has preconceived notions of your reactions to tell you to slow down or that you missed a turn. Let me be the back seat driver for you I’ll tell you when you missed a turn or even just to pull over for a minute to enjoy the scenery. There’s no rush, we all get there eventually.

“Outings are so much more fun when we can savor them through children’s eyes” Lawana Blackwell.

Take it easy

-Max

Betrayal Hurts, But Bad Choices Are Worse

There are a lot of times in life that people seem to get “stuck” with a person that they love with every fiber of their being and who does not return that love with equal fervor if at all. Yes I am talking about cheating partners or just plain unrequited love. You’re an intelligent person if you managed to see through the smokescreen of cheating and saw it for what it really was. Now you have several options in front of you that may seem like an impossible decision.

The first option is the one that everyone will tell you makes the most sense and that is to end the relationship. Many people choose this option first out of a desire for self preservation or some kind of ability to strike back at the person who hurt them but the issue at hand is neither of these are valid motivations on their own to make a decision like this without weighing all of the other options. Hasty decision making is probably what lead your partner into making this mistake in the first place and if you really wanted to show that you are the bigger person the best way to do this is to show that you are capable of making an informed and rational decision even in the face of emotional trauma. I’m not making light of your pain believe me when we talk I can feel it too all I am saying is that your pain and your gut response to a problem is not always the best course of action.

Some people look to their friends or family for answers to these kinds of questions and while that may be a good thing to do if your friends and family can empathize with the situation it is not a good thing if they have no ability whatsoever to relate. Your mother who has been happily married to a faithful husband her whole life is not going to be able to offer sound advice. The same can also be said of people you know and love who went through bitter break ups themselves and are still broken or torn in some way on the matter. You can’t find a middle ground by walking either side of the road.

Certainly you might think that it is the only option and one of the major things that people are worried about when these kinds of things happen is “well, if I don’t end it now and it happens again I can’t blame anyone but myself.” it is natural to feel that way but a breech of trust is perpetrated by the entity that committed the act even when you give someone another chance. That’s where having someone life me in your corner can be a great boon but sometimes you won’t get the answer that you necessarily want to here.

For all of the talk that I’ve said about not immediately ending the relationship I didn’t mean that in all situations. There are a lot of mitigating factors that play into making an informed decision. The first of which is to trust your intuition. Sometimes it can be difficult to tell the difference between intuition and instinct and I’ll probably go over that at a later date but your intuition can tell you many times. Second you should clear your head and try to get your mind right and seek objective advice from an emptahizing rational thinker. I’m not one to brag but I fit the bill perfectly . Third and finally after consulting all availible facets of advice, some more esosteric than others you have to make up your own mind.

Many times there are even more than three options in dealing with this kind of a situation but for simplicities sake and the lack of a desire to write a six hundred page blog on the subject we’ll stick with these for now.

“A liar should have a good memory.”

Quintilian

A Peek:

Someone in your life doesn’t have your best interests in mind. They conspire to force you to join them in their misery… Watch your back -Max

What Do You Wanna Do With Your Life?

If you have ever talked to another human being and weren’t raised in some kind of testing facility without any human contact at all you have probably been asked this question more than once. There are a lot of people out there in the world that try to convince you that life is meant to be led safely, with restraint, and most of all denying any possibility that does not seem plausible. What if someone came along and told you that your life is yours and that the power to change it has always rested inside of you buried far underneath all of your preconceptions and self doubt? Would you believe it?

History is littered with people who made the impossible possible and harnessed an inner fire so potent that it left the world forever changed. We all have that potential, right down to the newest newborn baby. Sure we get hung up on the details and the what ifs but if we can penetrate that veil long enough we find that deep inside the human spirit is something not wholly explainable and untamable. I can help you stoke that fire and use it to light your path even in a world shrouded in darkness and confusion. Your life and your experiences are an open book to me and I want to help you be able to see that book to its conclusion despite the trials and tribulations you have faced and will continue to face in order to get the ending that you want.

The power to control the world is in one mind, yours. Let me help you harness it.

Though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death I will fear no Evil.

You are your own lucky star.

-Max